December 5, 2020 6:36 pm Published by

Confidence in one’s value as a human being is a precious psychological resource and generally a highly positive factor in life; it is correlated with achievement, good relationships, and satisfaction. Possessing little self-regard can lead people to become depressed, to fall short of their potential, or to tolerate abusive relationships and situations.

Too much self-love, on the other hand, results in an off-putting sense of entitlement and an inability to learn from failures. It can also be a sign of clinical narcissism, in which individuals may behave in a self-centered, arrogant, and manipulative manner. Perhaps no other self-help topic has spawned so much advice and so many (often conflicting) theories.

Improving How You Feel About Yourself

People who experience a steady diet of disapproval from important others, family, supervisors, friends, teachers, might have feelings of low esteem. Yet the healthy individual is able to weather off-putting evaluations.
Each person’s experience is different, but over the course of the lifespan, self-esteem seems to rise and fall in predictable, systematic ways. Research suggests that self-esteem grows, by varying degrees, until age 60, when it remains steady before beginning to decline in old age.
Self-esteem can influence life in myriad ways, from academic and professional success to relationships and mental health. Self-esteem, however, is not an immutable characteristic; successes or setbacks, both personal and professional, can fuel fluctuations in feelings of self-worth.

What causes low self-esteem?

Feelings of high or low self-worth often start in childhood. Family life that is riddled with disapproval can follow a person into adult life. Low self-esteem can also become a problem because of a poor school environment or a dysfunctional workplace. Likewise, an unhappy relationship can also alter a person’s self-worth.

How can you boost feelings of self-worth?

No one person is less worthy than the next person, and no one is deemed more important. Knowing this detail is crucial. To feel more confident and have healthy self-esteem, it helps to put aside fears of being worth less than others.

Signs of Strong Self-Esteem

The confident person is easily spotted and commands attention. But there’s a healthy balance between too little and too much self-worth. Here are some signs that an individual has the right dose:
1. Knows the difference between confidence and arrogance
2. Is not afraid of feedback
3. Does not people-please or seek approval
4. Is not afraid of conflict
5. Is able to set boundaries
6. Is able to voice needs and opinions
7. Is assertive, but not pushy
8. Is not a slave to perfection
9. Is not afraid of setbacks
10. Does not fear failure
11. Does not feel inferior
12. Accepts who they are

Self-esteem is a person’s subjective assessment of his or her worth to himself or herself. Self-esteem covers various beliefs about oneself (such as “I’m unloved,” “I’m worthless,” “I’m a failure,” and “I’m beautiful”) as well as physiological states, including sadness, triumph, joy, and shame. The more we believe that we are worthy of happiness and good things in life, the more self-fulfilled we will be.

If you would like any help with boosting your self-esteem and confidence, please contact me.

Francine x

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